The comments toward women in the comment sections on Facebook of that catcall video and the allegations against Jian Ghomeshi really make me feel sick to my stomach. They are mostly by men, and almost all of them are insulting the women and threatening them while trying to deny that we have a problem with how women are treated in today’s society.
Don’t believe me? Spend 10 minutes reading the comment section and ask yourself….is there really not a problem with violence towards women?
This is why we STILL NEED feminism. And feminism is not the problem. The problem is how defensive and aggressive men get when women speak up. Again, open your eyes and look around.
Let me ask you…is it okay for 3 men to follow me around a bar, ignore me when I blatantly say that I am uninterested? Is it okay for them to follow me outside and continue to try and hit on me/get my attention once I have made it VERY CLEAR that I am uncomfortable and do not want their attention?
Is it okay for construction workers fixing a sidewalk outside of a family member’s house to leer and make comments (in another language) about me as I try and walk past with my two small children to get to my family member’s house?
Is it okay for a guy to yell “I’ll give you a nickle for your vagina!” at me when I am simply waiting at my son’s bus stop?
If you answered yes to any of those, or tried to rationalize it with “well, you went to a bar” or “what were you wearing?”….you have a problem.
Yes, I went to a bar. I went to a public place to dance and drink and have fun with my friends — not to get hit on. I clearly stated that I was uninterested and married, and it didn’t prevent those guys from continuing to follow me around and harass me. They only stopped after they followed me outside and saw my husband.
And contrary to what these men seem to think, women don’t dress up or do their makeup to impress them or fish for compliments. I personally enjoy doing my makeup and wearing a cute outfit for myself and only me. I’m just as comfortable rocking sweat pants and a baggy tee with no makeup. It depends on my mood and how I feel, NOT some random man that I don’t even know.
Guess what folks? We women are not stupid. We can tell the difference between a polite good morning and a leering, sexual advancement. Stop telling us to “take a compliment”, it downplays what’s really going on. Is our discomfort and fear that meaningless to you?
And yes, I’m aware that there are a lot of women out there who feel the same way as those men. Still a major problem in my eyes.
The victim blaming needs to stop. Be a feminist, care about women because we are half the damn population. We are fucking important!
Being a feminist doesn’t make you a man hater, it means you care about everyone and you want equal rights for all. The right to walk down a street free of discomfort or harassment, the right to report a crime against you without being threatened and harassed, without having the majority of the population accuse you of lying because one man couldn’t possibly have assaulted 8+ women. They must all be lying.