“It doesn’t need to be done right this second”

There’s a fundamental issue within most cohabitant relationships, and it’s the aggravating sentence of “it doesn’t need to be done right this second“.

This sentence is delivered when one party (most often the wife) asks the other (usually the husband) to pick up the slack a little and perhaps do a chore that needs to be done (usually dishes or cleaning). The other party (ahem, husband) will say “I’ll get to it. It doesn’t need to be done right this second.”

And thus will begin a familiar game that every first party (ahem, WIFE) knows…the game of procrastination vs nagging. The second party (husband…I’m just going to start calling it like it is) will keep putting it off, insisting “they’ll get to it”. The first party —okay the wife — grows increasingly aggravated each second that passes when the husband doesn’t complete said task. The husband grows increasingly aggravated each time the wife reminds him, or rather “nags”.


The husband is bewildered by the wife’s boiling temper because (according to him) he doesn’t understand why it has to be done immediately. The wife (and any outside party, typically) knows that it’s more than just wanting the task completed. It’s wanting somebody, anybody to listen the first goddamn time she asks. It’s actually a rage worthy situation and the best solution for all involved is to help out when asked, hell help out before you’re asked because it sucks when you’re the only one doing shit around the house and it especially sucks when nobody does what you ask of them because “it doesn’t have to be done right now.”

Let’s try thinking…yes, it does have to be done right now. Because then the dishes/cleaning/whatever will be done and then everyone can relax…not just the second party aka husband.

P.S. If your wife has time to compile a blog post about it and you STILL don’t complete the task, she has every right to kick you in the balls.

P.P.S. The easiest way to completely turn your wife’s attitude around is to do the task she asked you to do and maybe one or two additional ones to apologize for being a twat waffle.


About J.C. Hannigan

25. Mother. Wife. Lover of words. Weaver of stories. My first book, Collide, is available in e-book for Amazon Kindle and Kobo.
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7 Responses to “It doesn’t need to be done right this second”

  1. Gerry says:

    It’s like you’ve been spying on us for 14 years but got the roles reversed. But you forgot to mention the “I was gonna. . .” excuse when you mention something that needed doing or the acting like you just burst into a room angry for no reason, as if you hadn’t mentioned this one thing 4 billion times in the past 14 years. But yeah, love.

    • Jess says:

      Haha ok so MAYBE it goes either way, whoever is the type A personality and there’s always one in the relationship πŸ˜‰

      • Gerry says:

        Interestingly enough, I don’t think either of us is actually type A, since I’m pretty lazy myself. But there are degrees. Maybe types B+ and B-.

  2. Right there with ya. Oh the joys of marriage.

    And I never heard “twat waffle” before. Gave me a nice chuckle this morning. πŸ™‚

  3. Oh yes! I know this argument way too well! And I am guilty of both sides! Nagging and proscratinating. But I’ve found that it is better to do things right away because ultimately it results in less dishes πŸ˜€

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