Positivity used to be something that I never struggled with. I have been told that as a child, I was the happiest, sweetest girl around. I always had a smile on my face and a twinkle in my eye.
Since then, the reality of life has…lessened my ability to remain positive. In my years of teenager angst, I lost that ability almost completely. I was down, I was sad. I let the silliest, trivial things affect my outlook on life. Being a teenager was fun, yes?
Looking back, I probably could have handled the disappointment of unrequited love better, and I probably could have realized that my life wasn’t over if I didn’t immediately get my way.
It’s taken me many years to get back my positive outlook, and it’s hard to maintain it. Life can suck, you know? Being an adult with all these responsibilities and demands, you can’t just hide under the blankets for an entire day and fake sick like you did in high school when things got to be too much. You have to put on your big girl panties and deal with it.
If there’s one thing that I’ve learned in my (nearly) 25 years on earth, it’s that you really shouldn’t let outside forces affect your true potential and positivity. Shit is still going to suck, so why worry about it and let it ruin other aspects of your life? Money is terrible, there’s never enough of it and it can be scary not knowing if you’ll be able to pay all the bills and do all the things you need to do…but there is goodness in your life too, there is sunshine.
Don’t stop chasing your dreams when things get rough. The future isn’t secure for any of us. Just keep chugging at it. Keep going, even when it feels like you can’t anymore. Keep your chin up, dust yourself off and keep pushing. You’ll come out of the rain, and there will be sunshine.
Just don’t lay down in a puddle and accept that as your life, that’s the worst thing you could do for yourself.
Positivity isn’t about always smiling and being stupidly optimistic, it’s about knowing the good of what you do have. It’s about knowing the dark days will end. It’s about pushing through all obstacles and doing everything you can to just keep moving, because you’ll loose if you sit down in that puddle.
On my dark days, I pull sunshine from things I know make me happy. My children, my husband (most times, anyway), my dog, and the rest of my family/friends. I hold it in my hands and keep pushing.
Be thankful for the things you have, and don’t let your worries and stresses keep you from truly enjoying and appreciating them. Celebrate the goodness.