This is a wonderful day and age. Before the Internet (and Facebook), if you wanted to invite mass amounts of people to a party, you would have to send out invitations in the mail. Facebook allows you the option of creating an event and inviting mass amounts of people with relative ease. Which is great, because we, as a collective whole, are busy. Plus, we all love to save money (and trees, and time) by cutting down on snail mail invitations.
This new avenue of inviting people to things is wonderful, really, if we ignore the fact that it’s really a simple method that is really a decay in more personalized ways of interacting. I could take this decay in interacting, if that’s all it was. After all, I’ve never been a fan of the phone and I am quite awkward in person to person interactions. However, people now feel that they don’t really have to RSVP to any invitation, Facebook or snail mail. Because they are busy, after all.
I once read somewhere that society is busier than ever, living their lives and earning their paychecks. People can scarcely remember to feed the family goldfish, I guess that’s why the majoirty of them don’t RSVP to some party or event, whether they receive the invite on Facebook or in the mail. They are busy.
Personally, I think it’s completely aggravating. When I turned 19, I created a Facebook event inviting all 100+ of my Facebook friends to go bar hopping with me to celebrate. Not one of them RSVP’d, so I canceled the event, feeling like a total friendless loser. I had about four people message me afterwards to ask why I’d canceled it, telling me that “they were planning on going”. Well, gee…thanks for telling me now, now that I’d canceled the event after seeing no RSVPs and cried about how nobody cared.
It still happens now. Most people just won’t RSVP to events. It’s incredibly difficult to plan a birthday party or function without knowing how many people are actually going to show up.
I love the people that do RSVP to events. I want to kiss them all, because of their thoughtfulness. Because they have maintained the timeless etiquette of RSVPing. Because I will know how much food to buy.
Then there is the cop-out function on Facebook event invites…the maybe. In my opinion, there shouldn’t be a maybe. Make up your mind on whether or not you’re going to go immediately. Perferrably the moment you receive the invite. Check your little black book, see if you’re available and then decide if you want to go. But most importantly…RSVP. The quicker you RSVP, the quicker I can finish planning my events.
I think people don’t really read their snail mail anymore (because it’s usually just bills and junk anyway), which is why the mailed invites get forgotten. As for Facebook invites, I often wonder if people think oh, no big deal. It’s just a Facebook event. It’s not major. Or maybe they don’t want to be rude by saying they can’t attend…but trust me, that’s not rude. I take more offense to silence than I do someone simply saying they can’t attend.
Which is exactly why I’m dreading planning my 25th birthday bash. I was going to just do a simple Facebook event. Then I remembered the horrible, icky feeling of rejection when I was 19. So, I considered doing up some snail mail invitations. But then I felt awkward, because the first part of my party will be a Passion Party for the ladies. Should I tell my guests to bring money for dildos on the invitations? Or is that assumed when I write “Join me for a Passion Party!”?
Times were much simplier back in the day when your only option was snail mail invitations. Of course, I don’t think those ladies back in the day needed to worry about proper wording for a Passion Party.