I’m watching this movie called The Pregnancy Pact, and I’m really shocked. I know it’s based on a true story, and that girls are still having babies because they think that’s the best option to keep their boyfriends with them forever, or because they think the baby will love them forever. But what appalls me most is the parents outlook on birth control. One of the girls’ mothers, who fought the school nurse about handing out birth control to the students, says doing so would tell the kids “they give up on them”.
I couldn’t disagree more with this statement. Handing out birth control tells our kids we trust them to use it and make the right choices. You can’t avoid it: teens will have sex. They can’t fight the whole impulse control. I was a teen not all that long ago, I remember. Hormones are hard to control at any age, but harder when you’re a teen and you’re new to all those feelings and experiences.
This mother also only talked to her daughter about how important it is to save yourself until marriage, but the reality of it is that most girls – most people, don’t do that. Even if you want your kids to wait until marriage, or until they’re old enough to comprehend the consequences of sex, talking to them only about abstinence isn’t the best option.
Yes, I did get pregnant at 19 (it wasn’t a planned pregnancy, as I’ve mentioned before) – and yes, I am considered to be a young mom. We’ve had to struggle to get ahead, since neither of us had educations or even jobs for that matter. Yes, I’m one of the lucky ones who’s “baby daddy” actually stayed around – I actually ended up getting married to him, and I couldn’t be happier with our life together. But 19 is completely different from 14-16. Emotionally, it’s a huge difference. The younger you are, the more you struggle with everything. I couldn’t imagine trying to raise a baby and finish high school and get a diploma. High school is hard enough with adding babies and parenting to the mix. I know that I faced a lot of struggles, emotionally trying to find my way in the swing of this whole parenting thing and financially get on our feet, but I know that it’s so much harder when you’re still in high school, especially when you don’t have the support from your family like I did.
I will be educating my kids on the importance of safe sex, and that the best means of birth control is to not have it. I will buy them condoms, not because I want to encourage them to have sex but because I want them to be protected if they choose to have sex. It’s not really our choice as parents, is it? We can’t be there when they are in the moment and remind them that it’s probably not a great idea. Hell, that’d be awkward for everyone around, wouldn’t it?
I don’t understand why so many parents, so many school boards, are so set against handing out birth control to the kids. I’d much rather hand out birth control to them than pregnancy tests.
How do you feel about it? Would you put up a big stink if the school board decided to hand out birth control to students?