I saw a post on Facebook that I wanted to reply to. Someone posted a link to the Learn & Play breastmilk baby saying “this is completely ridiculous. seriously why does a little girl need a breastfeeding baby!”
Honestly? I don’t see a problem with it. OMG I KNOW SHOOT ME RIGHT?! But really, I don’t sexualize things like breastfeeding. I really don’t. It’s a food source. There are dolls that come with bottles to feed, and people don’t freak out over that…so why freak out over a breastfeeding doll?
I honestly do not see how this doll would endorse sex at a young age.
I honestly do not see how having this doll is ridiculous or sexual.
I honestly don’t see why people try to shelter their kids from a natural thing like breastfeeding, just because it involves breasts.
“Kids don’t need to see that!” – maybe not right away, but they need to know what it is and what it’s for. They need to understand. I’m not saying that when I breastfed Nolan in public, I whipped out my boob for all to see. I covered up. But still got dirty looks, because way too many people sexualize breasts to the point that breastfeeding in public is nasty and shouldn’t occur.
What the hell, people? Why do they sexualize something that is natural? People have been breastfeeding a lot longer than they’ve been formula feeding. I’m not saying formula feeding is bad, because it’s not – I’ve done both, I just don’t understand why breastfeeding is met with such distaste!
The debate got a little ridiculous, when comments about “why don’t you just give the kid a dildo too!” were made. Comments like that freak me out…a lot. Why does breastfeeding equal out to teaching your kids about sex and dildos? These girls firmly believe that it does though, that breastfeeding equals sex at a young age because breasts are sexual first and foremost.
Personally, when I was a little girl, I didn’t view boobs as sexual at all. In fact, I think it’d be healthier for a girl to learn that boobs sustain life before learning that society views them as sexual things. Don’t you agree? I know I would rather my daughter learn about a feeding source before she learns they are “sexual”.
Every time I made a point, I was made to feel as if I was an absolute freak for seeing the point in this doll. I don’t even know why I bothered to say anything. I guess I’m still naive in thinking that friendly debates can be had in a public forum.
In my household, breastfeeding is not taboo, sexual, or a “private” thing. Nolan will know what breastfeeding is because I intend to breastfeed the new baby. To say that it would endorse sex at a young age is ridiculous – breastfeeding doesn’t endorse sex at a younger age, kids not understanding and searching out the answers elsewhere is what leads to sex at a younger age. Kids only learning that boobs are sexual endorses, well, sex. My kids will ALWAYS feel comfortable asking us any questions about sex, BUT breastfeeding has nothing to do with sex any more than my knee cap does and I’ll stand by that until I’m blue in the face.
Matt finds every part of my body sexy: my boobs, my knees, my arms, my feet even…so I just don’t get the “boobs are strictly sexual” mindframe. I really don’t, any more than saying “I can’t walk on my feet because they’re SEXUAL”. Pretty ridiculous, huh? But really, all of our body parts have multiple functions. Boobs don’t play into the making of the baby, do they? (If you answer yes, you might want to read up on how babies are made…lol).
If one of my kids wants that doll, they’ll get it. I personally think this doll would teach tolerance and acceptance, and good care giving skills so why not? If bottle fed dolls are acceptable, why can’t a breastfeeding doll be acceptable?
But I guess my parenting style is different. I don’t feel the need to shelter my kids from breastfeeding. I don’t feel the need to force my kids to play with “gender orientated toys”. If Nolan wants a doll, he’ll have a doll…if I have a daughter and she wants to play with trucks and cars, she’ll have trucks and cars.
How do you feel about that doll?
(Friendly debates only, no name calling for difference of opinions please.)
I have breastfed and bottle fed Nolan. I have done both, I have been on both sides of the cross fire and guess what? I’m all for feeding babies. I don’t care how it’s done or why, just feed the baby. Many women can’t breastfeed for whatever reason, and many women can’t knock the “sexual” aspect of breasts out of their mind. Which is why I’m all for this doll…if we teach our children young that breastfeeding is natural, maybe we’ll never have the issue of people sexualizing breasts to the point that they can’t comfortably breastfeed their baby. I’m not trying to knock those who couldn’t breastfeed for that reason, I’m trying to prevent that from happening in the future – to my potential daughter or daughter-in-law. Breastfeeding was such a remarkable bonding experience for me, and it makes me sad to hear people so against it because they think boobs are sexual. It makes me sad to hear that people are afraid to breastfeed in public because of the distaste they are met with, and I think it’s something that we can easily change by tossing in a little bit more tolerance, compassion, and acceptance. I think learning what breastfeeding is at an early age would help reach tolerance, compassion and acceptance.